Online Dating TIPs

Because more and more people are going online to look for love, it's a good idea to hone your online dating skills so that you're ready to make the most of this new road to romance. Here are few tips to make good impression about yourself online:

1. Creating an online profile
Online profiles are all about broadcasting the special traits that make you who you are. If you feel uncomfortable boasting about yourself, you can put in the disclaimer, "According to Tickle's What's Your Best Quality?," and follow it up with something like this: I am a smart person who is more able to understand complex concepts than many other people are. I'm also a reliable and dependable person whom others can usually count on. Last but not least, I'm an inventive and creative person who usually has an abundance of imagination and ideas. These are my top qualities, but I'm also very stable, compassionate, determined, a articulate, and romantic.

You can list as many qualities as you like, but it may best for you to focus on no more than eight of your top qualities. Choose the particular traits that you most value in yourself. Taking this approach will create a vivid picture of a unique individual and draw people to you who are a good match for your traits. Listing too many qualities can dilute your best points and make it look a little like you're trying to be all things to all people. This will only complicate your search for love.

2. How to describe yourself in your emails

In the initial steps of online dating, much time is spent learning about the details of another person's personality to see if the two of you are a good fit. To help a potential romantic partner get to know more about who you are, you may want to pick a few of your top qualities and elaborate on them in more depth.

There are a couple ways to do this subtly, so that a person can learn more about you without you plainly having to state your positive traits. Rather than simply telling your potential love interest, "I'm a compassionate person," you can show them you're compassionate in your emails. One way to do this is to respond compassionately to things your love interest writes to you. For instance, perhaps you've noticed lately that they've been talking a lot about work and about the long hours they've been forced to keep. You might want to ask them a compassionate question like, "It seems as though your work has been very demanding lately. Is there something I can do to help reduce the strain on you?"

You could also express that you're a compassionate person by describing situations from your own life where you've displayed that trait. For example, if you've been compassionate toward your sister, you can let a date know this by saying something like, "I'm a little concerned about my sister. Lately she seems to be criticizing herself a lot and I'm afraid that her new job is taking a toll on her self-esteem."

People will tend to pick up on the quality behind a comment like that one without even consciously remarking on it. Over time, this kind of sharing creates a general impression of the person you are.


3. How to present yourself at first date

First dates can be so stressful that the most important thing to keep in mind is that you do have many attractive qualities. If you put those traits to use by simply being yourself, you're sure to put your best foot forward. You don't need to rehearse all the great things about yourself in advance unless it helps you to do so. Instead, just keep that mental list of your best qualities ready so that should you start to doubt yourself during the date, you'll be able to remember exactly why you're a worthy catch.

Also, don't feel the need to dazzle your date with all your brilliant qualities at once. Your date will get to know all the different good parts of you as the date progresses, just the way you'll get to know them. However, it's still a good idea to have an interesting story or two ready that represents some of the qualities you want your date to recognize in you. Not only will those tales be a good way to keep the conversation flowing, they will also present your date with a snapshot of the things you like best about yourself.

(soure: Tickle Test)

5 Ways of Effective Parenting

Parenting to children must not be thought as a task to undertake or as an endeavor that must be endure a lifetime. It is an endowment that must be acknowledged and cherished. Remember, not everyone is privileged to become a parent. In any cases, at times, parenting is exhausting. Children can draw our energy. To avoid this tight spot, here are 5 ways of effective parenting:

BE A ROLE MODEL
You can’t just tell your child to do this or do that. If you want your child to become a better person, you must show good example. You can’t ask your child not to say foul words, when every time you finish your sentence is with the F--- word. Remember, children are the greatest mimic. You can’t teach a child things that are opposite on what you are actually doing. And by being a role model to your child, not only you teach him to be a better person but you also become one.


BE FIRM AND CONSISTENT
Learn to say “NO!” to your child. Lay your ground rules well and explain to your child why it must be followed. You must stick to your rules. Don’t say that there can always be exemption to the rules. If you do this often, you end up being inconsistent. Thus, your child might think of you as a liar.


BE APPRECIATIVE
Children seek approval from adults especially from their parents. Oftentimes some parents tend to forget to acknowledge their children’s effort on the things they do. Some parents are more heedful when children are misbehaving so they can correct them right away but forgetting to recognize them when they actually behave well. Simple words like “Thank you!”, “You are good!” etc. are words that can positively boost the spirit of a child.



BE A LISTENER
Children love telling stories. Give time to listen to your child’s stories. Quit saying always to your child “Later! Not now, I’m busy.” These words push your child away and closing the doors to communicate openly with you. Listen to your child’s corny jokes, wild imagination, etc. This way, you are teaching your child to learn how to communicate well.



BE EXPRESSIVE
Express yourself. You can be angry or sad. You can be jolly or glad. You can loose your temper or be prim and proper. You can be thoughtful and sweet. You can be affectionate. But make sure in every emotional expression you do or have, don’t forget to explain to your child why you have these kinds of feelings. Explain well why you feel certain emotions in different situations. By expressing yourself, you are imparting your emotional quotient to your child and he learns to learn to express himself too. And remember, emotional quotient is better than intelligence quotient for a person to succeed in life.

Thank You!

In these days with our busy lives, have you not forgotten to give thanks to the Lord when you wake up in the morning before you start your new day? How many of us say thanks to the passenger who passes our fare to the driver? Do you say thank you when the guard in your office building has opened the door for you? How often do you say thank you to your spouse for working hard and providing for the family?

When we are starting to raise our kids, thank you are the first few words we teach our children. But when our kids have grown-up, do they hear these words often from us? Do you give thanks to your child when you ask him to behave? Have you tried saying thank you when your child only just managed to have a passing mark in the report card? Have you said thank you when your little monster manages not to turn your house topsy-turvy for few minutes?

Do you know that these words can change a person? The other night, I was helping my eldest daughter to finish all her projects which are all due today. Both of us were already tired and weary. We went to bed almost midnight. Guess what my daughter did! She hugged and kissed me as usual, but she uttered these words; “Thank you, Mama.” Then I asked, “What for? I didn’t give you anything.” “For helping me with my projects” she replied. Boy! My heart sunk in a positive way. I was so touched. My tiredness and weariness were as if magically been removed. “Thank You” simple words yet can be so powerful and can move your being.

So, in any circumstances that we must give gratitude…let us not forget to say “Thank you”. Who knows what it will render to the recipient! Saying thank you is not only when someone has given us a present. We must be more appreciative to little things that others are extending to us. We must not forget these magical words.