Spy His Wares

Have you ever felt that your partner is ignoring you lately? For some reasons you could not understand, he simply couldn’t notice your new haircut. He would not bother that you had your hair dyed. He would not distinguish that you gained or lose some pounds. He even would not know that you have purchased an expensive jewelry. For some reasons he would not find you hot though you’re wearing your new Victoria’s Secret sexiest lingerie.

Gurl, it’s time to be wary of your man! It’s about time to spy his wares. To delve into his business doesn’t mean you don’t trust him anymore. You are just on your guard. You don’t like surprises, do you? It’s better to be careful than sorry later.

Here are some things you can check:

His phonebook. Look for unfamiliar name…he hasn’t mentioned it to you even a single time yet you see it in his list.

His text messages. Since you have checked into his phonebook you must as well check his text messages (inbox, outbox and sent items). This will confirm if the unfamiliar name is exchanging dulcet messages to your man.

His schedule. Try to ask him to have a mid-day date by having lunch together. If he refuses...change your strategy by giving him a surprise visit. You might be really surprised!

His wallet. There are some things in his wallet that can give you a clue like credit card receipts. He might be doing some purchases that you are not aware of.

His email. Sneak and peek to his emails if you can. You never know what you can read. Sweet nothing mails means something else.

Improving Your Memory

The more information we can store and recall, the smarter we feel. Memory is crucial to the whole process of learning and retaining knowledge, both of which increase your perceived intelligence. After all, without memory, how could you show off your expertise in Renaissance Art or 1950's cars? However, a good memory isn't necessarily an indicator of a high IQ. Instead, it is a mark of effective learning and synthesizing strategies, as well as your genetic makeup.

Since your memory can indeed be molded, the most important thing in strengthening your memory is to keep your mind active. Just as you exercise your body, you need to exercise your mind. If you continue to challenge yourself, your brain literally keeps growing. With use, your brain can develop new dendrites — the connections between the nerve cells in your brain — which helps your memory in retrieving and storing information.

Although research does indicate that the strength of your memory is partially dependent on your hereditary genes, there are some specific things that researchers suggest for enhancing your memory.

What Was Your Name Again?
Are you one of those people who just can't seem to remember the names of new people? While it's a common problem, forgetting someone's name isn't the best way to make a first impression. Associate the person's name with a defining characteristic. Our brains like to cluster information to solidify it. So instead of just thinking, "Sheila," try thinking, "Sheila, the pilot," or "Sheila, with those great hazel eyes."

When picking something to associate with the person's name, choose something that interests you or seems intriguing (or, for that matter, unappealing or irritating). This will help the person stand out in your mind and cement the name in your memory. Repeat the person's name. You can think the name and characteristic silently to yourself during the conversation. You may also want to say the person's name at least once, but probably no more than twice, during the conversation. Try to end with something like, "It was nice talking to you, Sheila."

Forgetfulness Got Your Tongue?
You know you know it, you just can't remember it. It's on the tip of your tongue. How can you bring it from the deep, dark recesses of your mind? Give yourself a break. Literally. Sometimes pushing to remember just drives the memory away, whereas taking a few minutes to let your mind wander or focus on something else can sometimes be more successful in allowing your mind to recall the word. Or you can allow yourself to think of something associated that leads you to remember the word.

Try to scan your mind for associations. For example, if you're trying to think of the name of a store, imagine the clerk, the atmosphere, the products, the stores on either side. As you form a more complete memory, the image of the store's sign or logo may come into your mind. The basic idea is to find things that you've associated with the name, in hopes that those things will bring the name to the surface of your memory.

Numbers, Numbers Everywhere

Phone numbers, birth dates, addresses, dollar amounts, and passwords are just some of the ways that numbers flood our lives. Remembering these can prove challenging for many of us, because strings of numbers are more abstract than strings of letters. For example, memorizing "8583938759309354" is going to take much longer than memorizing the word "associations" or the name "Sheila."

There are many intricate systems to help people remember longer numbers. One of the most basic ways is to associate each number with a letter, also known as "pegging." There are numerous ways to attempt pegging, depending on how long the number is that you need to remember. A simplified version of pegging can be used for remembering phone numbers, especially since most phones have letters on the keypad to correspond with each number.

"Chunking" is another method that you can use to remember hard-to-recall numbers. It involves breaking up long series of numbers into more memorable sections, primarily by inserting hyphens. Phone numbers and social security numbers are already formatted in this way to make them easier to recall (555-9663 is much more memorable than 5559663).

Memory Food
The strength of your memory is based at least partially on what you eat. Eat a well-balanced diet that has fresh fruits and vegetables, adequate amounts of protein, and complex carbohydrates, such as brown rice or whole-wheat bread. Foods like these that are rich in antioxidants can nourish and protect your brain cells. Additionally, try to limit coffee and soda, as sugar and caffeine can interfere with your thinking. Try to limit your alcohol intake. Drinking more than one or two glasses of alcohol per day can have a negative impact on the memory centers of your brain, thus impairing your recall abilities.

Stay Positive
You aren't the only one who has forgotten your best friend's birthday. And you certainly aren't the first person to spend hours searching for the sunglasses that were resting on the top of your head all along. So, don't be hard on yourself if you forget something. Remember that everyone has difficulty remembering things and very few people have perfect memories.The best thing you can do is to keep a positive attitude when your memory fails you. After all, if you start to worry that your memory is declining, that anxiety will only interfere with your ability to remember even more.

(source: Tickle Tests)

Understanding Your Memory

Why Does Memory Matter?
Memory takes place in the area of the brain known as the hippocampus. You rely on your memory almost every second of every day, using it for everything from remembering which day of the week it is, to bigger things like how to do your job, or which bus to take or where to do your grocery shopping. Your memory allows you to remember the people in your life, all of the experiences that you have had, as well as what you plan to do each day and how you do it. Without memory, you would be a blank screen, stripped of all previous knowledge and experiences.


How Memory Works?
Memory can be broken down into two distinct parts: short-term memory, which lasts about 30 seconds, and long-term memory, which starts after that 30 seconds and can potentially last a lifetime. There are three factors that help your brain determine which information to transfer to your long-term memory. The first is your degree of attention and concentration. Multi-tasking obviously decreases your ability to commit something to memory since your attention is only partially directed towards one activity. For example, if you watch TV while you study, you will likely have a much harder time transferring that information into your long-term memory because you'll be stimulated by what you're trying to learn, by what's on the TV and by what's going on around you, too. The second factor is the meaningfulness of the information; if something impacts you directly or seems important or interesting to you, it's more likely to stick in your long-term memory. The third and final factor is how well new information fits with your existing knowledge. If new information builds upon something you've already stored in your long-term memory, it's more likely to associate with the existing information in your mind and lodge itself into your memory.

Short-term memory, then, is seen as the gateway to your long-term memory. The more something captures your interest and attention, and the more important that information is to you, the more likely it'll be stored in your long-term memory. Information that is repeatedly used and built upon tends to become a stronger long-term memory. However, certain special information can lodge itself into your mind indefinitely without following these standard memory rules.


Flash Bulb Memory
Have you ever wondered why you can remember certain days or events in your life so much better than others? How is it that you can sometimes hear or see something just one time, and remember it for the rest of your life? Scientists call these kinds of memories "flash bulb" memories. These memories stand out because of their powerful emotional content, a unique aspect that allows you to recall that memory that much more easily. For instance, Americans who were alive when President Kennedy was shot often recall the vivid details of when they heard the news — including who told them, where they were, how they felt, and other surrounding circumstances. Another example of this would be remembering with exceptional clarity a day of personal trauma, such as the death of a loved one. While these memories aren't always completely accurate, they do serve as an example of how emotional content can enhance the storage of a memory.

(source: Tickle Tests)

Do You Remember?

Bad at remembering numbers but it's important for your job? Maybe there are different ways you can think about numbers based on other memory skills. Always misplacing things around the house, which makes you chronically late? Understanding different memory tricks can probably help you beat that problem, too.

Memory is more than just the romanticized idea of "making memories." It's how you remember specific information that helps you function in the world — whether on an emotional or more practical scale. If you know how you best process information, you can improve your chances of retaining pertinent information, and retrieving that information when you need to.

Research shows there's a lot you can do to improve your memory. And if you do, it can help you function in more ways than you'd think. There are 6 main types of memory which help us interpret and store different types of information. Visual memory, numeric memory, spatial memory, object-oriented memory, reading comprehension, and delayed-recall memory work in their own ways to help you store information. Most people are stronger in some forms of memory than in others. And that, in turn can tell you something about the way you personally tend to process information and turn it into long-term knowledge.

Visual Memory

Your Visual Memory allows you to remember visual clues and details, such as what someone looks like once you're no longer around them. When you see a word, picture, or symbol, you might find yourself forming a corresponding image in your mind; your Visual Memory is what allows you to recall that image once the object is no longer in sight. If you have a strong visual memory, this visual memorization technique can help you store and retrieve non-visual information, such as the meaning and spelling of vocabulary words.

Numeric Memory

Numeric Memory allows you to recall series of numbers, such as phone numbers, numeric passwords, combinations, and various account numbers. This memory technique can be tough for some to master, because strings of numbers are somewhat abstract and don't naturally correspond with one another in the same ways that letters of a word or images do.

Spatial MemoryYour

Spatial Memory allows you to recall the details of stationary objects that occupy physical space. Specifically, it relates to your ability to recall the physical relationship of objects to one another, including the distance between them, and/or their orientation to each other. Remembering how to get around town, recalling where you've put things, and being able to visualize the layout of a room are all examples of how you use this aspect of memory.

Object-Oriented Memory

Your Object-Oriented Memory allows you to visualize an object's movement and its ultimate destination and location in space. It involves being able to form a mental image of an object, rotating that image mentally, comparing it to the initial image, and judging whether or not the two objects are the same. This type of memory is used in various sports, as well as in everyday activities like packing a tight suitcase or organizing a closet full of various sized objects.

Interestingly, researchers have found that men tend to do better than women in this area, while women tend to have better skills when it comes to more verbal fluency. It's controversial whether these results can be explained more by biological differences between the sexes, or by the fact that men and women are socialized differently — taught to think, see, and participate in different activities that would foster, or discourage, this type of memory development.

Reading Comprehension

Your Reading Comprehension is a form of memory that allows you to read a passage or sentence, interpret its meaning, then store the general sense of its meaning for later use. As you read a passage, even this passage, you layer the meaning of the next sentence on to the meaning of the previous sentence — building on your initial sense of the meaning, and integrating new information to form a higher-level understanding and interpretation of the text as a whole. In general, your Reading Comprehension memory allows you to construct meaning based on the information you identify as important in the material. It also allows you to remember specific details from a passage and the specific ordering of information within the text.

Delayed Recall

Your Delayed Recall memory refers to your ability to transfer information from your short-term memory to your longer-term memory and then to recall it when you want to. Short-term memory technically lasts no longer than 30 seconds. After 30 seconds, the you either commit that that information to long-term memory or the information slips away from your brain. Delayed Recall memory allows you to remember information several minutes, hours, or days, or even years after first learning it.

In order to preserve the information stored in your mind with Delayed Recall, you'll likely need to continue using or reviewing that information, or associating it with other existing memories. By doing so, you may be able to remember things for the rest of your life.

Incredible Insights

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints.

We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness. We dr!nk too much, sm0ke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent. Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

Unfaithful?

Are you worried that your man might be unfaithful? You have this inkling that your man might be sailing in two rivers, yet you can’t substantiate it. Here are some indications that he’s covering something from you:

Goes Offensive. If you ask a guilty guy about his dubious actions, he might throw out his own grim allegations like “You don’t trust me, do you?” or “Is this because you’re seeing someone else?” His goal is to put you on the defensive so the attention is shift off from him.

Inflexible Routine. Certainly, most people do their day-to-day toil in a rather habitual way. But a deceitful guy’s schedule might be a little too stern. If he’s always occupied the same two days a week, refuses to change his timetable, or never calls on Saturday s, you might want to discover why.

Short Leash Strategy. In order to pull off such a ploy, a polygamist wants to know where you are at all times. He might try to constrict your circle of friends so you’re less likely to randomly meet his other chick. Or he’ll freak when you make last-minute plans, afraid you’ll catch him on a date.

(source: Cosmopolitan Phils)

Your Man's Desire Zones

You may already know how to get a rise out of your man below the belt, but to make him really ache with desire, you have to aim higher. The Cosmopolitan Philippine guidelines on how to touch, tease, and tantalize his torso will teach you to do just that.

Neck
To fire up your guy’s desire, place your lips just below his Adam’s apple and gently suck. Your mouth will be stimulating his thyroid gland, which according to ancient Chinese medicine, closely corresponds to his package.

Inner Upper Arm
This thin-skinned area contains a lot of nerve endings and is completely hairless, so it’s super responsive t the lightest touch. To turn him on without venturing into ticklish territory, gently run your nails in long strokes up and down the front of the muscle.

Nipples
Believe it or not, men’s headlights can be as sensitive as yours, so don’t scrimp on the nipple play. First, lightly brush them with the backs of your fingers. Then, softly run the palms of you hands over each one in a circular motion to create a warming sensation.

Pec Muscles
The line that defines the bottom part of his chest is touch-worthy region because the skin is tout and thin, especially on a guy who does his push-ups. Stimulate this hot spot by running the tip of your tongue along the perimeter of each pec-from side to center.

Along HIS Sides
Beneath this soft run of skin are tension filled muscles, so use a slightly firm touch to loosen them up. Place your hands on either side of his waist, fingers pointing up. Using light pressure, slide them up to his underarms and back down to his hips. Repeat.

Lower Abs
The area above the pelvic bone contains a cluster of sensitive nerve endings and, because of its proximity to his parcel, provides psychological stimulus as well. Using a barely-there touch, trace across his lower tummy with your tongue. Finish up by blowing air along the same path.

Treasure Trail
For a tantalizing tease, slowly plant kisses along the ling of hair leading from his navel downward. The soft fuzz of this pleasure path tickles the skin, creating a tingly sensation. At his package, pause, then head back up to amp his anticipation.


The above guidelines will surely make your man ache for desire. Not only you created a breathtaking foreplay for him, but he will crave for you as often than usual. When you successfully follow this simple pleasure map for him, he will surely adore you and passionately beseech to have you more.

(source: Cosmopolitan Phils.)