Online Dating TIPs

Because more and more people are going online to look for love, it's a good idea to hone your online dating skills so that you're ready to make the most of this new road to romance. Here are few tips to make good impression about yourself online:

1. Creating an online profile
Online profiles are all about broadcasting the special traits that make you who you are. If you feel uncomfortable boasting about yourself, you can put in the disclaimer, "According to Tickle's What's Your Best Quality?," and follow it up with something like this: I am a smart person who is more able to understand complex concepts than many other people are. I'm also a reliable and dependable person whom others can usually count on. Last but not least, I'm an inventive and creative person who usually has an abundance of imagination and ideas. These are my top qualities, but I'm also very stable, compassionate, determined, a articulate, and romantic.

You can list as many qualities as you like, but it may best for you to focus on no more than eight of your top qualities. Choose the particular traits that you most value in yourself. Taking this approach will create a vivid picture of a unique individual and draw people to you who are a good match for your traits. Listing too many qualities can dilute your best points and make it look a little like you're trying to be all things to all people. This will only complicate your search for love.

2. How to describe yourself in your emails

In the initial steps of online dating, much time is spent learning about the details of another person's personality to see if the two of you are a good fit. To help a potential romantic partner get to know more about who you are, you may want to pick a few of your top qualities and elaborate on them in more depth.

There are a couple ways to do this subtly, so that a person can learn more about you without you plainly having to state your positive traits. Rather than simply telling your potential love interest, "I'm a compassionate person," you can show them you're compassionate in your emails. One way to do this is to respond compassionately to things your love interest writes to you. For instance, perhaps you've noticed lately that they've been talking a lot about work and about the long hours they've been forced to keep. You might want to ask them a compassionate question like, "It seems as though your work has been very demanding lately. Is there something I can do to help reduce the strain on you?"

You could also express that you're a compassionate person by describing situations from your own life where you've displayed that trait. For example, if you've been compassionate toward your sister, you can let a date know this by saying something like, "I'm a little concerned about my sister. Lately she seems to be criticizing herself a lot and I'm afraid that her new job is taking a toll on her self-esteem."

People will tend to pick up on the quality behind a comment like that one without even consciously remarking on it. Over time, this kind of sharing creates a general impression of the person you are.


3. How to present yourself at first date

First dates can be so stressful that the most important thing to keep in mind is that you do have many attractive qualities. If you put those traits to use by simply being yourself, you're sure to put your best foot forward. You don't need to rehearse all the great things about yourself in advance unless it helps you to do so. Instead, just keep that mental list of your best qualities ready so that should you start to doubt yourself during the date, you'll be able to remember exactly why you're a worthy catch.

Also, don't feel the need to dazzle your date with all your brilliant qualities at once. Your date will get to know all the different good parts of you as the date progresses, just the way you'll get to know them. However, it's still a good idea to have an interesting story or two ready that represents some of the qualities you want your date to recognize in you. Not only will those tales be a good way to keep the conversation flowing, they will also present your date with a snapshot of the things you like best about yourself.

(soure: Tickle Test)